Hi All
I just want to know what you ladies think about Surrogacy. I am thinking of helping someone become a mom and a dad.
I dont want to say too much as I have not decided yet. I have my own son and just want to help someone ells be the best that they can be. Please feel free to be honest and post anything you want.
OO it wont be my child at all, they use mommies egg and daddies sp[erm and implant. I am just the carrier of good news.
Thanx Gals.
I think it is great that you offer to do this for someone else, as I would easily do it too… but you must just know all your rights and theirs and ensure that you will get the proper counselling afterwards as I am sure you might not be able to just pop out baby and walk away eventhough the eggs are not yours… Somehow your brain might feel that the baby belongs to your body
If you have all the facts and still want to go ahead, well done, as I can only try to imagine the enourmous gift it will be to the couple who cannot have a baby! Imagine if you could not have one and someone did this ‘favour’ for you!!!!
Laurika, I know the companies that work with the surrogacy goes though a lot to ensure that the surrogate mom would be able to handle the emotional part of it. I think its great that there are women willing to do this for someone else. Personally I know I get too attached and wouldn’t be able to do this for someone else. If however you feel emotionally up to this, why not go for it. It is an amazing gift.
wow its so good to hear that there are women out there that is willing to give her body to help someone have a baby.
I have a ant who can not have children and i have seen what it does to her.
i myself and my sisters desided if one of us could not have kids we would serogate for each other. thankfulle both my sister and i have kids its just our other sis that has non yet. but im sure she wil have no problems.
imagening my life without my babies is imposible, however i think if i ever had the chance to be a suragate i woul onley be able to do it for family. my ant, sister cousin so on. i think its a verry special bond you have with a child and i would prefer to have a personal relation ship with the family.
but never the less i think it is a gtreat gift of live you would be giving someone. if you follow the right steps to protect yourself and your family, aswel as the other family.
Good luck and keep us updated..
Hi Laurika,
a very kind and noble gesture indeed. Ir’s good ot know that you are working through an experienced agency and you and hubby seem to be on the same page.
I think if I offered myself for surrogacy, my biggest ‘considerations’ would be:
a) how much say will the couple have over you pregnant body? You know how a husband gets when you’re pregnant about your eating habits/craving choices etc. And while you can manage your husband, how do you handle it when the couple doesn’t want you to travel on holiday “because is travelling far safe for the baby in your condition” or when you want to stuff your face with 3 cream doughnuts and gain above-average weight or even below-average weight gain etc? It might be something to clear up with them:-)
b) I’m pretty sure that the agency will arrange the clauses for medical costs (pre and post natal), so I’m not going to touch on that. But on the topic of costs, does it cover maternity wear and comfy shoes when your swollen feet and belly don’t fit your wardrobe anymore?
c) General care products for mom – we all know how much a pregnancy can take out of you physically: swollen feet, dry skin, vitamin supplements, nausea remedies etc. How will the couple feel about covering these costs as well?
d) Your Employer – usually it is recommended that you discuss surrogacy with your employer, as they tend to get niggly when your pregnancy affects your work (doc appointments, frequent toilet breaks etc). Whilst everyone at work is usually supportive when you expect your OWN, some companies do get annoyed and feel that they catch the short-end in a surrogacy situation – their employee doesn’t even have a baby to show for the effort. Another important factor is the fact that you will on 6 week mandatory maternity leave, and your company might not be happy with that. So definitely consult your boss before you get pregnant.
Other than that, you guys are clearly ready for this, it’s an awesome idea that will surely enrich your life:-) Good luck and best wishes for this marvelous adventure!
Not a bad idea but my concern is also the emotional phase. Jeanne – Marie is right be well prepared in all angles.
In everything you do you and your family comes first , as long as you happy.
Hi Laurika
I think it is wonderful that you are considering helping a couple become parents. My only concern would be your emotional wellbeing after the birth, would you be able to carry the baby and then let go after the birth?
If you do decide to go ahead, it might be worth while to go for some counselling together with the couple to prepare you better.
It is a beautiful gesture, just make sure that it wont destroy you and your family.
The company that I am thinking of registering with provide counseling throughout.
It is very legal and you go through a lot of things as well as the high court before the disition is final.
Me and my husband are only planning one child and have that one child.
I just feel that I have everything that God gave me and its all working fine. I have everything that I want so why not help someone ells get everything that they want.
I have been wondering about what my life would mean for a while now, and believe that we are all put on earth for a reason.
I am thinking that this is my reason.
Thanx so much for all your replies.
Oo and I have the full understanding that this will not be my or my husbands child. I have also discussed it with him and he seems to get it too.
I realy would like to do it before my son is old enough to understand, couse then I will haveto do a lot of explaining. I dont want to confuse him and want him to know that this is like a gift that mommy is giving someone who cant do it by themeselves.
Again thanx to all who are giving me their views on this subject.
U are welcome. All the best n future and remember God loves you.